How to have a lasting marriage

Different folks have written rules on lasting marriage, but what you are about to read is not one of those rules. I have taken my time to gather tips and ways whereby you can have a happy lasting marriage. I have also learnt from watching my parents who have been married for over 40 years. 

These days, marriages barely last because we are the "internet generation". We are so used to having things "sharply". A lot of people are used to fast things: cars, noodles, chips, food. We microwave everything microwavable; chicken, rice including popcorn. All these have successfully and strategically pushed out patience from our generation. Thus, it takes a conscious effort to master the art of patience which is so vital in marriage that its benefits cannot be overemphasized.

TIPS FOR A LASTING MARRIAGE

1. Use magic words: learn to use those 5 magic words "sorry, please, thank you, excuse me, pardon me". These go a long way. Listen more and talk less whenever you are upset so that you do not say things that you will regret later. You will be surprised that people rarely forget what their loved ones tell them, because they cherish them a lot.

2. Don't live on social media: this is one of the keys that helps the older generation; they are not used to social media. Try as much as possible to reduce your social media time. Don't be addicted to it. Taking a walk down the mall, one often sees couples on dates where the parties are on their phones chatting with those who are not with them. Some people carry this habit home after wedding and they chat off on the internet while their partner is discussing something important with them. Learn that your spouse comes first, after God of course. Note that communication is very crucial in marriage.

3, Stay with your spouse through thick and thin: this is where I need to state that you shouldn't marry for money. Marry for love and readiness to sacrifice. You should continue being an understanding partner even if the going gets tough. Remember that phrase in the marital vow, "for better or worse". Nobody prays for it, but if it happens, don't bail out on your partner.

4. Do things together: watch movies together, read books, share your knowledge on an important topic you just learnt. Go out on dates together. Relive your courtship days. Dates are not meant for only the intending couples. Stay young and youthful, enjoy your marriage.

5. Develop each other: help each other to become better in each chosen fields. Your partner's life should be better than before he/she met you. Always have a positive impact on your partner. Think of how to impart their lives and do just that.

If you have more tips, kindly leave your comments below.

Thank you.

Lamyn cares.